In my view, until you’ve done the “grunt work” and spent time in the trenches working with Focker, your goal of healing Focker or silencing Focker will be like climbing a high mountain without snap links and rope. Right now all the training is like grunt work.
Remember that The Eleven Stepper is a by-the-numbers exercise that over a period of time can be condensed to a much shorter form of the same process? Focker will get to know the drill and you won’t have to go through much explanation. We’ll practice this later. Right now, it’s time to get back in the trenches and do more grunt work.
What causes intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, nightmares, and associated panic attacks? I believe the major cause is the intensity and power of the traumatic imprint or the traumatic memories on the brain. The triggers are sometimes simple and sometimes complex. Focker freaks out about them, fights them, judges them, hates them and gets scared and sometimes terrified they will come back to haunt her. Her gut reaction is to fight which makes them worse. In that way, she contributes to keeping them alive.